
"When you say yes to others, make sure you aren't saying no to yourself." Â
- Paulo CoehloÂ
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Do you often find yourself putting others' needs before your own, afraid to say 'no,' and constantly seeking approval? You may be trapped in the people-pleasing 'Good Girl/Person' syndrome. This behaviour pattern can lead to a loss of identity and hinder personal growth. Let's delve into the journey from people-pleasing to authenticity.
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Understanding the 'Good Girl' Syndrome
The 'Good Girl/Person' syndrome refers to the tendency to prioritise other people's happiness and expectations over one's own needs. Some common signs of the 'Good Girl/Person' syndrome include:
Suppressing personal needs to avoid conflict or rejection
Feeling guilty when asserting boundaries
Seeking constant validation
This pattern can stem from early experiences where self-worth is tied to pleasing others. Over time, it becomes difficult to distinguish between personal values and the expectations of others.
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The Journey to Authenticity
Embracing authenticity involves reconnecting with your true self, setting boundaries, and prioritising your well-being. Here are some steps to help you on your journey:
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Self-Reflection: Explore your values, beliefs, and interests. Journaling, therapy, and mindfulness can aid this process.
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Set Boundaries: Learn to communicate your limits and assert your needs. Start with small situations and practice saying 'no' when necessary.
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Cultivate Self-Compassion: Acknowledge and validate your emotions, knowing feeling vulnerable during this journey is okay.
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Seek Support: Surround yourself with people who respect your boundaries and encourage personal growth.
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As you move from people-pleasing to authenticity, you'll experience greater self-confidence, healthier relationships, and a deeper connection with your true self.
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Remember, the journey is a process, and taking small, gradual steps toward change is okay. Embrace the authentic, empowered you, and watch your life transform.
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 Lots of hugs until next time.
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Faith xoxo
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